How To Experience A Deeper Connection Within Any Relationship

Many relationships reach that point where you feel you want a deeper connection with your partner in order to take the relationship to the next level. Once the novelty of having a new person in your life begins to wear thin its important to find ways of deepening your connection in order to not only maintain the relationship but also allow it to flourish. In order to encourage a deeper connection with your partner I advise these two steps; Step 1) Spending time apartNow this may seem surprising. After all if you want a deeper connection you should spend as much time together as possible right? Wrong! In a relationship it is important that you keep that attraction going once you’re in the “comfort” stage. This is not to say that your man is going to get bored of you if he sees you too much but he will begin to be so used to having you around that he doesn’t realise how much he appreciates you. A few days apart will make him realise the things he loves about you, the things he misses and saying goodbye for a substantial amount of time will make saying hello again much more exciting! Allowing yourself and him to miss each other will keep that spark of excitement in the relationship. Step 2) Indulging in his passionsIn order to strengthen the connection in your relationship it’s important that your guy doesn’t only see you as his girlfriend but also as a best friend he can enjoy all aspects of his life with. If your boyfriend sees you as separate from the rest of his life a truly deep connection will never be established. Inevitably your man will of course have passions such as work, football or films that he indulges in separately to his time with you and that’s healthy but it is important that he feels he can share these with you as well. Find a way to be a part of the other things he enjoys aside from the usual ‘couply’ things he does with you. Ask him about work even if you have no idea what a radio-planning engineer does… watch a football match with him even if you don’t understand the offside rule. You don’t have to pretend it’s your passion as well but allowing him to see that he can include you in all areas of his life will help him see you as an important part of his life not just an added extra who looks good in a skirt. When your man shares his passions with you he will realise he can enjoy these things with you as well as with his mates and seeing him passionate about something will help you feel closer to him and more attracted to him even if its not your thing!

To your love life, Matthew Hussey

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Rules For Calling Men – What You Should And Shouldn’t Do When Calling Guys

Whenever I’m asked for advice on calling men, I’m reluctant to give out hard-and-fast rules about what to say.

But that’s not to say there aren’t tips to help you in this area, which is why I’ve compiled some handy Do’s and Don’ts to help you effortless phone conversations:

DO’s

1. Do – Use your voice to express more emotion

The crucial advice when calling men is to start with your voice.

Change the volume and tone of your voice in order to express more! When you begin the conversation, adopt a cheerful tone and it will make him feel good about the idea of talking to you.

If you always have a monotone, downbeat voice on the phone then he won’t look forward to hearing your voice.

2. Do – Smile and be playful

It sounds odd, but people can “hear” your smile down the phone. When your smiling it registers in your voice.

3. Do – Ask “why” questions as well as “what” questions

Asking “what” questions e.g. “what did you have for dinner?” “What are you doing right now?” will eventually get tiresome.

Ask him how his day went. If he tells you something interesting about himself i.e. he plays an instrument – ask him why he chose that instrument. What does he like about playing music? This will give him more chance to express himself.

4. Do – Remember: A boring question doesn’t need a boring answer

If someone asks obvious questions like “Done much today?” don’t answer with a boring “Not really”. Use your brain more! Tell a story about something embarrassing that happened to you or if you did nothing today, tell him why you’re excited about tomorrow!

DON’Ts

1. Don’t exhaust all your conversation until it runs dry

When calling men you should never feel the need to keep talking until your both bored of the conversation. Sometimes it’s best to leave it on a high and save the extra chat for next time.

2. Don’t take the whole thing too seriously

A phone call should be fun remember! You’re calling to enjoy chatting, so it should never feel like a job interview.

Start joking around early and he’ll follow suit. It’s up to you to set the tone of the conversation; if you act nervous, he’ll feel nervous.

To relax more, try calling him on the walk home from work. Sometimes walking puts you in a more energetic mood and makes it easier.

3. Don’t call – while you’re busy with something else

Never call a guy when you’re sending emails, watching TV or reading a magazine. He’ll hear that you’re distracted and you’re conversation will be worse because you won’t be giving him your full attention.

4. Don’t – Leave him to do all the work

A conversation is a two-way process, so there has to be give and take on both sides.

Make sure you answer questions with more than just one word answers to he has more information to go on for other topics.

To your love life,
Matthew Hussey

http://www.gettheguy.co.uk

Are Dating Sites Worth The Hassle?

It’s no question that online dating has exploded over the past few years, but can it really help you find the guy you want?

I mean you need to avoid the crazies, the fake photos, the stretching of truth and maybe just maybe, you may find a legitimate guy.

So to wrap up the conversation we have some good and bad points.

The good things about dating sites

• You don’t need to spend too much time on meeting guys
• You can pre-screen guys based on a bunch of profile features
• Men are more likely to contact you

The bad things about dating sites

• Profiles may not be up to date
• It’s easy to manipulate a profile and add fake photos, bios etc
• May not be safe
• You will get hounded by guys NOT looking for a relationship
• Doesn’t help you attract men in your every day life
• Getting a date doesn’t equal getting the guy

What are your views on internet dating? Have you tried it? If so, did it go well? Have your say below…

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I Can’t Attract Men Like My Friend – Why Not?

If you find yourself wondering “How can I attract men like my friend?” you may be suffering form what we call the backseat driver mentality.

It boils down to this: You are ranking yourself as second-prize!

When you go out with the friend in question, you are probably holding all kinds of destructive beliefs in your head.

Beliefs like:

• “All the guys in the room are attracted to my friend”

Or:

• “Any cute guy that comes to speak to me is only using me to get to her”

As you take on these negative beliefs, you will start acting in ways that are more unattractive to men. You will act more dismissive and closed towards them, be less fun and flirtatious, appear less confident.

In short, you’ll be sabotaging your own success!

Remember, guys are attracted to women who believe they are sexy and comfortable with themselves.

If you’re spending all your time thinking: “I just can’t seduce men like my friend”, you will behave in ways that make guys see you as second-best from the moment they talk to you.

They will be able to feel your insecurity!

If you want to attract men like your friend, you need to consider on a technical level what behaviour she is adopting that you’re not.

• Is she teasing men and being more playful than you are?
• Are you constantly taking the quiet backseat role when you two interact with a group of men?

(If the answer is yes, you need to start approaching men solo and letting her come in the conversation after you’ve been chatting a while).

• Are you getting stuck in the friend zone? – If you want to attract men, remember two of our principles:

1. Building sexual tension – e.g. Through heavy eye contact, touching him on the back of the arm while you point something out to him, touching him lightly on the lower back if he‘s at the bar.

2. Teasing – If he buys an alcopop for example, tease him a bit and tell him he might want to try a beer next time. (just be cheeky and fun with this).

Bottom Line: Shaking off this backseat driver mentality is essential if you want to attract men like your friend!

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